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Re: 'The Only Problem'...

Posted by diogenes on 2024-April-11 11:37:25, Thursday
In reply to 'The Only Problem'... posted by Sick Rose on 2024-April-10 21:04:55, Wednesday

Well, I do understand your point, but I think I would be a bit more permissive. I cannot find it in my heart to condemn the (fictional) relationship described by Edmund Marlowe in Alexander's Choice or the relationship described by C. J. Bradbury Robinson in Young Thomas.

The problem of jealousy is a big one, and will only be exacerbated by openly boysexual men in schools; but even without actual sex, it will be a problem, since a boysexual man will always be suspected of having favourites. I seem to remember that Stephen Nicholson in A Dangerous Love had an entirely Platonic relationship with a Turkish pupil, but it still led to jealousy. Maybe kids at some point just have to learn that jealousy, though natural, is not very commendable.

I think I would allow any physical interactions between a teacher and a pupil provided it happens naturally and the boy enjoys it and hasn't the least objection. I wouldn't allow pestering of a boy by a teacher; though if that happens, and he is unable to desist with regard to a particular pupil, then the answer might be to move the teacher to a different school rather than ruin his career. (Only if he still persists after that, would one have recourse to the law.) In fact, dealing with these potential scandals discreetly was largely how these things were conducted in Britain before the Great Sex Panic.

Boys need morality, but neither physcal affection nor mutually enjoyable sexual pleasure should have anything to do with it. The morality I would seek to inculcate would be one of honesty, fairness, openmindedness, helping each other, trying not to be selfish or jealous, and being kind to animals.

diogenes

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