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Posted by Sick Rose on 2024-April-10 21:04:55, Wednesday
In reply to These are wonderful proposals. posted by diogenes on 2024-April-10 06:06:48, Wednesday

is a very large one. It is why in any group-based setting (company/school/church/choir/military unit)the person in authority must not play favorites/have affairs even if both he and the person under his authority want it.

Now, I am not a member of the "no contact" brigade. I believe that under the right circumstances a sexual relationship between a boy and an older male can be very helpful --even life-transforming -- to a boy as he matures.

But those circumstances do not include a teacher of a group of boys and one of those boys. Among other things, the jealousy provoked among the others and the inevitable clouding of the teacher's ability to evaluate the boy's performance vis-a-vis the others are fraught with peril for all concerned -- and that peril is moral as well as practical (as in, it being discovered).

Now, you are absolutely right about the links between pedagogy and pederasty and when it's a one-on-one situation, the pederasty can enhance the pedagogy (although even here, the boy should probably not be the "receptive" partner but actively demonstrate an interest in the physical before the man does anything other than indicate a genuine delight in the boy and a commitment to helping his intellectual/emotional growth).

But in a group-based setting -- e.g., a boys school? Nope. Of course the erotic aura is going to be there -- at least if the teaching is really effective -- but it needs to remain "in the air" as it were.

That's why when recruiting BLs for teaching (and we make the best teachers, certainly for boys past the age of 6 or 7 or so), the candidates need to demonstrate that they have their libidos under firm control -- that they are both fully aware that boys are hot AND able to sublimate that awareness into passionate teaching and leadership.

SR
Sick Rose

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