Perhaps it's because society told him, "If he's a minor, it doesn't matter whether he says yes or no, because he can't consent; adults are the ones who must make decisions for kids"? In that paradigm, the fight is not between him and the kid (who has been reduced basically to the status of livestock), but rather between him and society. He's essentially behaving as a cattle rustler, from that point of view. He probably figured, "Society told this kid that this kind of touching is wrong, and it's up to me to set him straight." He has no way of knowing whether my "no" is because I find him unattractive, or because I have been brainwashed into thinking all sex between adults and minors is wrong, unless I explicitly give him my reasoning. And in fact, trying to spare his feelings and claim a higher authority than just myself, I told him something like, "Men don't do that in our culture." And he said, "Let's be foreigners" and persisted. (If I'd been at his place, and had my own car, at that point, I should've left, but he was actually at my house, so all I could do was walk out the door and leave him there alone, if I wanted to send a message that I wasn't open to further seduction attempts.) In man-woman relationships, though, it's common for a woman, especially a young and attractive woman, to tell a man "no" many times before she has consensual sex with him. She wouldn't want to seem like a slut, after all. So she has to show some token resistance to send a message, "I'm not that kind of girl." Perhaps some men think boys are similarly coquettish. [@nonymouse] [Guardster] [Proxify] [Anonymisierungsdienst] |