Notice how the mother is holding the boy? Her left hand in around the boy's shoulder. The fingers are pressed firmly against the shoulder, and are clearly not relaxed - you can see the stress. Her right hand is clutching tightly around the boy's upper arm, and pulling the boy tightly toward her body - and you can see the tension in the back of her hand. Her smile is forced - her eyes are not smiling. The boy is clearly not smiling. The boy's hair is parted on the same side as the mother. The boy over-eats. He is mildly obese. Why? Does he look for happiness by eating too much? I don't know... Could all these things put together mean something? Could the mother be very controlling? Could she have influenced the boy to feel/believe things about himself that actually originate in the mind of the mother? Could the boy be trying to "please" the mother, subconsciously? Just some things to consider... There have always been effeminate boys. It is normal and natural. As there have always been tomboys, too. Cross-dressing is a bit more serious, especially with all the condemnation the boy is likely to receive from friends and acquaintances. My question is - what is really going on here? Can we know? Can the mother know? Can the boy know? Who knows? He's only ten years old. And he's making serious decisions that will seriously affect him for the rest of his life (hormone treatment, then possible major surgery). Does the boy have other "quirky" things about him? Other problems that could indicate some deep concerns about his relationship with his mother, his father, and with other boys his age? Has anyone carefully looked into these questions? Or could it really that everything else is just peachy-keen, but he thinks he's a girl? I think that should be looked into. There seems to me to be more here than meets the eye. Don't you? |