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None of this feels right

Posted by Nightlight on 2025-October-23 15:25:08, Thursday
In reply to Re: Read your own post. nt posted by Phaino on 2025-October-23 02:46:38, Thursday

Andrew is absolutely right to call you out, and your dismissal of him is telling us more than you may have intended.

The way you write, the way you engage in these conversations, it’s not something a person claiming he's not a boylover does. As a matter of fact, nobody writes like you do throughout this thread, unless they have a long history in this community. Your style, your phrasing, even the references you make are too precise, too informed to be accidental.

Your familiarity with the subject matter goes far beyond what a casual participant would have. Your interest level is too great. You’re approaching this like someone who has been around, who knows the internal rhythms, the shared vocabulary, and the unspoken rules that govern how these discussions unfold.

I won’t outright claim that you’re a returning member disguised under a new identity, attempting to relive or restart debates we’ve been having for decades, but I also won’t deny that it wouldn’t surprise me. The depth of your knowledge, the precision of your terminology -- terms like “Eros” and others -- points to someone who has been part of this culture for a long time. That’s not casual knowledge; that’s embedded expertise that only a long-term insider would have.

Which leaves two possibilities. Either you’re genuinely new but in denial or repression about your own BL feelings, or you’re playing a role, pretending to be an outsider while really just recycling old conversations for attention. And let’s be honest, we’ve seen both before.

I don’t say any of this lightly. If you are genuinely new, are confused about your own burgeoning BL identity, if your intentions are sincere, then I apologize for the tone here.

But if you aren’t, if this is another round of old games in a new package, then you should know that it’s remarkably transparent.

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