DANGER alert for all

This is an alert to everyone on boychat rather than a reply to Matteob, whose little jibes here I’ve hitherto ignored. I’ve never before written about somebody personally, as opposed to writing about their opinions, and it makes me feel sick now to feel bound to point out that this man is extremely dangerous. Here’s why, based on what he himself has written here: 1. mentioning he was on a film site under his handle Yes, indeed. He posted a comment on GLTTA giving away personal information about me he knew only from private correspondence. And now he drags his personal feud here. In all my fourteen years here, I don’t think I’ve ever before heard of anyone bringing into a discussion here privately-gathered knowledge of another poster. I know several people here from other places (online and off) and I thought it was an unwritten rule of safety and courtesy that one would never do such a thing. 2. Not that I can recall… (27 April, replying to Manstuprator) A much smaller point, but an appallingly bad memory (the worst I’ve ever encountered in someone his age), adds danger to his indiscretion. He was being utterly sincere when he told Manstuprator he couldn’t remember having posted exactly the same thing (banging on about no longer finding boys attractive) a couple of months ago. I know this from long experience. 3. I am on anti depressants (just the most recent allusion, there have been much more explicit ones I’m not going to waste time looking up) He has mentioned several times here being mentally ill. This is not to be underestimated. Here I fear I must explain a little background if I’m to be understood. This man pushed himself as a persistent correspondent into the lives of myself and a close friend as a consequence of his reading my novel thirteen years ago. Over all these years he poured out his personal problems, opinions and confidences. My friend and I both felt sorry for him and thought he probably had a kind heart, so we always replied as comfortingly as we could. It was awkward because we both sensed deep down that he was not trustworthy or stable (never have I thanked my lucky stars so much for not letting me trust a particular individual!), so we had to be careful what we said and also to put him off diplomatically without hurting his feelings when he repeatedly pleaded with us to meet him in real life and got quite tetchy when we wouldn’t. All this suddenly ended three months ago when I remonstrated with him for writing a comment on GLTTA giving personal information about me he only knew from our correspondence (as he has confessed here). He immediately went literally berserk, firing off six long emails of insult in the following hours. I’m told this a classic reaction to the faintest criticism for those with narcissistic personality disorder. 4. As a final point to hammer home just how dangerously foolhardy he is, I must add to these bits of evidence he’s given here himself, that he knows very well how much I know about him, essentially everything. I think it must follow logically that he also knows for sure I would never reveal his secrets under any circumstances at all, otherwise why would he insist on being my enemy and keep insulting me so confidently on a public forum instead of just letting go? But though he is of course absolutely right, he’s surely damned lucky to be so, isn’t he? If he, full of spite as he apparently still is, knew half as much about me as I know of him, I’d be suicidal with worry. And if he takes such pointless risks for himself, what risks wouldn’t he take affecting only others? Note that in his post above, he says he lurks here, but rarely posts. This serves as yet another stark reminder to us all that there are vipers lurking here unseen and that we have to try never to forget their presence whenever we write anything. I’m ashamed to say that it was actually me who convinced this particular viper to infest boychat, and for that I apologise to everyone here. The only thing I can say in mitigation is that I also persuaded one other person to join who has turned out to be one of its very finest contributors. www.amazon.com/dp/1481222112