shame is the path forwards

The first step to rehabilitation is recognizing that you made a mistake. As long as you go through life thinking it's someone else's (the victim?) fault that you offended and someone else's fault (the parent/teacher/counselor/cops/prosecutor?) that you ended up in prison, then you continue to be powerless to keep it from happening again. Admit that you made a mistake. Learn to love yourself and value your own health, well being and freedom. Realize that crime is not the way to show love to children because of the likely horrible consequences for them and for yourself. Adjust your values. Grow some self respect and respect for the young people and for all people in your community. Personal growth is necessary before shame makes sense. Shame is the comprehension that your choices do not align with your own inner values, but if you value nothing and no one (not even yourself) above quick dirty thrills with stranger child in a public bathroom, then shame can not help you. Being so unashamed as you represent yourself to be is nothing to be proud of. Your lack of shame just shows you have no morals or values above instant gratification. Growing up and accepting reality is tough because you have to feel the shame of recognizing that you caused all that trouble and heartbreak for yourself and those you claimed to love, but the path forwards is through shame and on the other side of shame you will find freedom and self esteem like a pro-crime pedophile could never experience. (https site) The Healing Power of Shame [@nonymouse] [Guardster] [Proxify] [Anonymisierungsdienst]