Over thinking it....

OK it is New Years Eve and I am well in to my celebration and I recognize that you are already well angry with me over our minor disagreement on the interpretations of events in ancient Rome...that being said, the Greek model of Pederasty is an idealized example but not one without worth... as are others. As a person who is predominantly attracted to young men and boys, my outlook is vastly different from yours I believe. You asked, "why do you think a boy (or at least a non-gay boy) would ever want a man as a lover?" The answer is that they would not. Well, at least not a boy who is exclusively heterosexual which is a still a minority and I have argued on many, many occasions that for them sex with a man is harmful in that it is Ego-dystonic innately. Still that leaves a lot of boys who would seek out the company of men for both emotional as well as psychical intimacy. The ideas and practices of Pederasty can still and should advance into the modern world but with a greater understanding of the needs of both the men and the boys. It is OK to be base in one's carnal desires if it is mutual. I am not sure that the idea if mentorship is correct and is not better represented as symbiosis...each meeting the needs of the other in a way that is mutually beneficial to both. Keeping in mind that this is not ideal for all, but certainly for some. My point being that a boy's agency is in the ability to both accept or reject such a relationship freely based on his desires and needs. It is also important to keep in mind that like boys, exclusively heterosexual men would not want such a relationship either. I have read people saying that "all/most men are attracted to both women and boys. That bothers me because I do not like the idea of someone who can not form a true love relationship with another male (even if it is one sided) using boys for sex. Is that a gay thing? International Boylove Day BoyWiki