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Posted by IrishBL on 2024-June-22 17:18:18, Saturday

Well, hi there folks.

I don't post much here anymore but most of the old-timers still around here will remember me from a time when I used to post far more frequently.


Anyway, I just thought I would share something that happened to me very recently. I have only had a couple of YFs in my life, my most recent YF came of age years ago and is now in his early 30s, but our relationship continued and has remained strong from the AF-YF years to us both as adults.

Anyway, while our relationship has remained strong and we try to meet up at least a couple of times a year, inevitably some distance has developed. Busy lives and all that. He has been in a long-term relationship with a woman and they announced their engagement last year. I have got to know her too and can see how happy they are together.

We met up a few weeks ago to celebrate his birthday and went back to his parents house at the end of the night for a couple of late drinks. Anyway a bunch of us were sitting around, when he got up and asked me to go outside with him. Which I did.

He closed the back door and said “I have news. We've set the date for the wedding, it's in September.”

“Great, you waited long enough!” I said

“I know” he said. “There's more though. I would like you to be my best man.”

Well, for one of the few times in my life I was struck dumb. He has a few brothers, cousins, school and college friends, probably dozens that he could have asked. “Why me?” is the only thing I could think of saying.

Well, he has the same sense of humour that I have. He said “I wanted to ask someone who has been a true friend and has been there for me throughout my life and someone who is just a great guy. But I don't know anyone like that so I said I'd ask you instead.”

I burst out laughing. “Fuck you” I said. And then it hit me. That I meant this much to him, even now. I became very emotional. We embraced. It was a long one. I said “Of course I will. It would be the greatest honour of my life.”

We have been friends since he was 12. I have no idea how many relationships between man and boy blossom into something like this. Not many I would suspect. And while I knew I had been an influence and had made some sort of difference in his life, I just did not know how much of an impact he felt I had made. It is really very humbling.

So, what's the lesson of this? I guess that if we can be a good influence and make a difference in the life of a boy, it can last a lifetime and you just don't know when or how the rewards can appear. I am so grateful that he allowed me to be part of his life.

As the old saying goes, I can die happy now.

IBL
IrishBL
"When the disappearing begins
The ghosts we kept within
Can break free from inside
And untie our blindfold eyes"

Manic Street Preachers - To Repel Ghosts

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