mutual pleasure instead of consent

There are too many convictions of adults regarding questionable consent. Claims of abuse or exploiting a position of power leads to those convictions. And we also know that women are seducing men in order to get advantages - it has been so since Adam and Eve. It even has been observed among animals. Moreover, consent came from the medical term consent - agreeing to a procedure beforehand, because one is unconscious during it. Sex is different, both partners are awake / or should be. Consent is altogether the wrong concept. The question of sexual abuse or rape should not center on whether consent was given or not, but that both partners had pleasure all the time. Sex is like dancing, 2 people are in it together and also experiencing it together. If one side says no (or stops dancing), it is over. I think, arguing in favor of a lowered age of consent is futile - one should argue to replace consent (and the limited ability of that under a certain age) with mutual pleasure - which has no age limit. A rule that should apply for all ages and all types of physical contact.