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... But most regulars here have more than one issue, you see. I mean, a "normal" BL (if there is such a thing as 'normality'), would have little reason to stay here I think. Once he has found this place and got the satisfaction to say what he can't say otherwise in the wide wild world, what is there here for him? He's unlikely to stay here for long in my opinion. So there is a concentration of atypical BLs here I guess: people who got through a lot of trouble, people with 'challenging' personalities, with strong opinions, asocial tendencies, obsessive behavior... and who cling to this board like to a raft in the middle of the ocean. Of course one can rationalize their reasons to be here, try and make sense of it, like by helping others, contributing to debates, bringing material for discussion or pure enjoyment... And that's all good, but it seems to me it is more an excuse to remain here, while the real reason is the inability to live in harmony with the outside world. Not because it's impossible for a BL to live a somehow normal and satisfying life out there, but because other factors enter in consideration. I, for instance, am an extreme introvert. Furthermore, I have no attraction whatsoever to adults ; I don't mean just sexual attraction, but any kind of attraction. So making friends or keeping a social life is a real effort to me, not just to start the relationships or maintain them (it would just be normal), but even in the middle of the relationships, in what people feel like pleasant moments: I can't enjoy it like other people do. Not that I dislike people, in some way I really like people, but in a more distant way. I think I may feel around adults like most adults feel around children: they like them, they don't mind spending time with them for a while, playing games with them or have small talk with them, but... they live in a different world with different interests, and there is no real, deep connection possible. I, on the contrary, feel like children are the only ones who I can spend a meaningful time with, feel "in communion" with. |