Re: More common for boys not to see it as molestation?

I do have one friend whose mom's boyfriend used to do romantic or sexual stuff with him for years, starting from age 10 or 12 or something. That same man tried to kiss me and wouldn't take no for an answer, so finally I had to tell my parents, and that was when my friend told on him as well. The difference is, I got over what happened, while my friend still seethes with anger about it. My thought is, "If you didn't like it, why didn't you tell anyone? Why did you let it go on for so long? Be a fuckin' man and take personal responsibility. You were old enough, when it happened, to know what options were available to you to get that behavior to stop." Exactly. It baffles me too why some "victims" of "sexual assault" allow it to go on for so long, even for years. In the case your friend, if he didn't like the sexual advances of his mother's partner, being the 10 year old youth he was, he should have had more than enough where-with-all to tell him just to fuck off otherwise if it went on any longer he would need to get his mother (being the legal boss of the household) to put an end to it. If her partner still failed to make any sense of that warning then a few shoves, punches, kicks (or even a knife to the throat) in reaction to further unwanted sexual advances should have been enough to send the message. If all that failed though, the next obvious step would have been to tell his mother that if she was not prepared to put a stop to it that he would most certainly need to leave as he would not have wanted to endure the on-going unrestrained behaviour of her partner. In your case though, it would have been much easier to deal with as you were not actually living under the same roof as your friend. You would not have even needed to report/complain about it as all you actually needed to do was simply stay away from your friend's house. Problem solved.