the way you phrase it by couching it as "boys' "intrinsic" rights to their own sexuality" is the issue here by using this verbiage you appear to be framing the question as if the boy himself is initiating the encounter if this is the case, then boys should have a right to desire and seek out whatever they want, be that reason the boys homosexual tendencies or experimentation or whatever the case may be but the other person should have the right to reject the advance for whatever reason he chooses to including the fear that the boy may later change his mind due to the social stigma you ask a simply question, but the answers are not simple nor is the issue simple for instance if a 3 yo grabs your crotch and feels it, is it right to teach him that this behavior is inappropriate? or should this be interpreted as a sexual come on? you know my answer, of course a 3 yo should be taught not to do that and this behavior is innocent a 16 yo grabbing your crotch....very different age of the boy matters, relationship matters, and the larger society matters to. a 3 yo looking at another 3 yo penis is different than two 14 yo's fooling around and much different from a 10 yo boy and a 40 yo man exchanging bjs etc so there is no simple solution here that is not said to avoid or side-step your question, only to say that I truly cannot give you an answer aside from what I've given except, perhaps, to clarify anything I have said hope this helps |