Done that...and it went well

Actually, I did that four times with different councilors over the years. Generally, I found it helpful. I did it because it seemed pointless to talk to a counselor if I didn't share this part of my life with them. None of them ran to the cops and with one exemption they were all very supportive. Of course most places have mandatory reporting laws regarding "child abuse" which of cause is defined very loosely. If you are involved with a child (even non sexually) or have been in the past you need to be very careful what you say. Even if you haven't, I would suggest asking the therapist for a list of situations in which he or she is required to report to the authorities before you say anything. Renumber fantasies are just fantasies. Many people come to therapists with murderous and sadist fantasies. If your therapist has been in the business a while your situation will not shook them. If he or she makes you feel defensive or you get the sense they're trying to cure you, switch to a different therapist immediately; this isn't the right one for you. As a general rule male therapists tend to deal with these things better then female ones and those with s psychology background tend to better then those with a social work or other background. Some therapists specialize in counseling victims of childhood sexual abuse. I'd stay away from one of them. I would disagree with the statement that your therapist needs to know. It may make it easier for them to help you if they know but it is ultimately up to you to decide what it is you want help with. I agree with other posters that talking to another BLs can be just as helpful as a therapist. However, finding one who is sensitive, capable and has the time to talk to you is difficult. Don't forget more than one poster from this board lost their freedom or life because the got involved with the wrong BL. Through their training and experience a professional therapist can bring skills to table that most BLs can not. On the other hand they don't know what it is like to be a BL and that means something. I really liked therapy. It was nice to have somebody to talk to. It may have made my life better but it is hard to tell for sure. If it weren't for the $150/week it costs I'd probably still be going. I'm not making a recommendation either way. the choice is you're. Use it wisely and try not to get distracted by fear mongering. Good luck friend,