One of the criticisms by the "antis" is that BoyLovers (supposedly) "molest" boys who are the most vulnerable, and that this is a truly terrible thing.
Boys who are needy, or rejected by others, they claim, should not be befriended by men who not only like to be around boys, but like to "pleasure" boys by giving them blowjobs.
See, the antis think that sex is always motivated by power and the need to control others, particularly women, but also, by extension, young boys. Google Chatbot:
The claim that sex is motivated by a desire for power and control over women is central to Kate Millett's work on "sexual politics" and is a common theme within radical feminist thought, especially concerning rape being an act of violence and control. While not solely attributed to one person, the idea that sex can be an expression of patriarchal power to control women's sexuality and resources is a key argument within feminist philosophy and has been explored by thinkers like Foucault.
Key Figures and Ideas
Kate Millett:
-- A pioneer in the field, she coined the term "sexual politics" and argued in her book of the same name that sex is inherently about power and control, especially in the context of gender relations.
Radical Feminism:
This branch of feminism argues that patriarchy, or male dominance, is a fundamental form of oppression, and that sexual relations are often a primary tool for men to assert power and control over women and their bodies.
Foucault:
His work on power and sexuality, while complex, explores how power operates to create new forms of sexuality and social constructs, including the very idea of "sexuality".
Historical Feminists:
Many feminist arguments have supported the interpretation that the suppression of female sexuality throughout history has been a method for men to maintain societal power and patriarchal control over resources and women's lives.
Broader Context
Power Dynamics:
-- The assertion that sex is motivated by power aligns with broader theories that see sex as intertwined with social status and dominance within many societal structures.
Critique of Power Structures:
By connecting sex to power, these arguments aim to expose and challenge the underlying power dynamics that contribute to the sexual subordination of women.
SOURCES:
Michel Foucault and The History of Sexuality - CORE
For Foucault, this view of power is the underlying one informing Western political thought and furthermore the main one informing ...
CORE
Cultural Suppression of Female Sexuality - Sage Journals
If a woman lacks desire, according to this argument, she will be less likely to have sex with anyone other than her mate, and so h...
Sage Journals
Why Men Seek Power Through Sex - Medium
7 Jan 2025 — Psychologist Alfred Adler argued that many men are driven by a “will to power,” a need to assert themselves in ways that...
Medium ·
Isolde
What Is a Feminist Philosophy of Sex? - Oxford Academic
A feminist philosophy of sex explores the nature and extent of this oppressive environment and seeks to expose women's sexual subo...
Oxford Academic
When Sex is Power (Chapter 8) - Power in Close Relationships
Sex can also be used as a negative expression of power. For some, expressions of power during sex are desirable and sexy, creating...
Cambridge University Press & Assessment
Michel Foucault: Feminism
Internet Encyclopedia of Philosophy
Relationship between power/control, sexual gratification, motivations, means, and effects.
ResearchGate
Evolutionary ecological insights into the suppression of female ...
Feminist arguments have supported the MCT, interpreting the suppression of female sexuality as a way in which men maintain societa...
ScienceDirect.com
Kate Millett pioneered the term ‘sexual politics’ and explained the ...
2 May 2024 — Kate Millett pioneered the term 'sexual politics' and explained the links between sex and power. Her book changed my lif...
The Conversation So you can see where part of the antipathy towards BoyLovers originated. From 3rd-wave radical feminists!
SEE:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Radical_feminism
AND:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third-wave_feminism
...but you have to take a lot of what is in those articles with a grain of salt, as the feminist "woke" women edit those articles.
While sex may sometimes, for some men, be a "power trip" over woman, that does not seem to be the case with BoyLovers and their boys. BoyLovers do NOT express an interest in dominating and controlling boys, according to the best available research.
There are many theories concerning why BoyLovers like boys. Most of them are not supported by good evidence.
One theory (by John Money) is that pedophilia is an overflow of parental pairbonding into erotic pairbonding, and that we wish to "father" needy boys.
Some evidence seems to support that theory.
M.
I certainly am attracted to "boys with imperfections" as well as boys without them.
SEE:
https://www.boychat.org/messages/1645773.htm
...to learn more about Dr. John Money's beliefs about BoyLove.
(Boychat.org link) https://www.boychat.org/messages/1645773.htm
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