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Re: Mentoring

Posted by XuxaNuit on 2025-July-17 15:01:03, Thursday
In reply to Mentoring posted by NewMemb on 2025-July-17 13:57:30, Thursday

Hi NewMemb, great question! I'm glad you are here to ask it, and I am here to help answer, yay!
It's not about YOU up here, the wise generous authority figure, and he the precocious child down there shorter that you, but there exists a balance.
You learn from each other, you grow together.
The child builds your parenting skills and teaches you just as much, if not more, than you teach them.

Mentoring is about protection, protecting them from harmful influences whether that be other instructors or friends, it means you've got to know the difference between right & wrong. And if you do not already have this moral fiber, this common sense, then you will not be an apt mentor, an adept.

You should keep in mind when the child becomes an adult, they will move on, maybe think of you as a friend, but it won't be a dynamic like when he was a child. It's not a forever situation, so you cherish your time, and treasure the memories you build together.
You've got to be prepared for disappointment, a child can have a bad day, or feel moody, and be quite mean sometimes, you can't take it personal.
You've got to be selfless in your endeavor.

How do you plan on meeting with these young lads, are we talking online, or in real life?
You are probably going to need to become acquainted with the parents.
Or, if the parents are problematic, abusive, you mustn't turn the child against them by pointing out all of their faults and mistakes.
Instead try to set an example.
Each boy has special needs, maybe you are best suited to help a certain demographic.
Did you have any mentors or heroes when you were a boy? what about villains?

Any questions so far.

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