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Posted by Apertado on 2025-July-17 10:04:52, Thursday
In reply to I am terrified of being exposed posted by sjoquist on 2025-July-11 03:01:24, Friday

I used to deal with a similar problem, not related to being around children or anything like that, but with other thoughts that could cause me to feel those things.

It takes practice, but you gotta remind yourself that worrying about those things in excess will lead to more suffering, that other people be around children just fine and that you just have to keep your actions legal and proper.

In my case, I treat children the same way I treat adults, to the extent allowed by law. For example: I don't strike conversations with random adults I do not know, so I do not do the same to unknown children. Most people do this to an extent, because most people just ignore each other.

On the other hand, if you allow yourself to worry excessively, instead of objectively examining your behavior with a cool head and coming up with guidelines you can follow (such as the one I shared), you risk actually making yourself look suspicious. So, in short, you should just come up with a rule or set of rules that you comfortable following when in situations involving children.
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