You want to build an army, but realistically, that’s not going to happen. I’m not saying this to be dismissive, just honest. Anyone who’s been around long enough knows this. Also, I’m not sure who you think I was on other chat sites. To my knowledge, we never interacted. For example, I avoided LL because I found the format unsafe. I’m sorry your relationships haven’t gone well. It seems like that frustration is showing up in your political views, particularly your anger toward Anglo countries. I don’t believe your understanding of our situation is as clear as you think. While you say you’ve done the research, those of us who’ve followed your path for a long time have noticed how much your perspective is shaped by biased influences. You’ve been too quick to adopt their narratives without questioning them. The challenges our community faces aren’t the fault of any one country or event. They come from many sources, including some of our own making. That’s not easy to admit, but it’s important. Some among us have done serious harm. The abuse scandals are global and are very real. That reality exists alongside the good we’ve contributed. Ignoring one side distorts the full picture. But that debate can be had another day. Rather than clinging to a victim narrative or broad political blame, why not meet people where they are? For example, helping the OP where he is, emotionally and mentally, would be far more valuable. Seeing ourselves only as victims keeps us stuck. We are more than that, and we need to act like it. I truly hope things improve for you. You’ve seemed like a much more grounded and reasonable person when your relationships are in a better place and it looks like you acknowledge that. I'm sorry you're struggling. I think that’s the core of what’s going on here actually. If you can address that honestly, instead of channeling the pain into activism that only isolates you further, I think you’ll find more peace. Seeking healthy relationships might help you feel more stable than trying to rally people to a cause. Boys and activism doesn’t need to be the center of your life, especially as you get older and gain more perspective. There’s so much more to explore and invest in. Don’t limit yourself. I hope nothing I’ve said comes across as condescending or like unsolicited advice. Some of us genuinely care. |