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You would first have to demonstrate that it is in fact possible for kids to be sufficiently educated about sex. Age will play a major role in that. A five year old will never have the same level of understanding of a thirteen year old no matter how much "education" you give them.Just what level of understanding does a 5-year-old need to distinguish between good and bad touch? Here is a simple criteria for you: bad touch hurts, good touch feels good. Children know that instinctively, they don't need to be taught anything. "Good touch/bad touch"? Why is "good touch" never possible when it involves genitals? I agree with you that trauma can be learned from others in society, but that doesn't then mean that adult-child sex is necessarily good. There's a difference between "potentially not traumatic" and "beneficial."You COULD ask the children themselves about that, or ask young adults who still freshly recall their experiences as children. And that has been done. And a majority say it was NOT traumatic, and that it WAS beneficial. Your argument seems to be that children really wish they could have sex but are just not permitted to by society. That would only be true for those who have reached puberty. I'm not saying it's impossible that a younger child *could* enjoy sex, but they don't seek it out because they have no sexual desire.Uh, why for only those who have reached puberty? Do people before reaching puberty have no sexual feelings at all? And, if so, then why do so many children seek out and enjoy sexual contact with others, including adults? Oh -- you say that that is not REAL sexual desire. The "sexual desire" of adults is qualitatively different from the sexual desire of pre-pubescents? How do you know that that is true? The question has been studied, you know, and the only differences is that, for most pre-pubescents the desire for sex -- though present -- is not as STRONG as the desire for sex once the hormones get into high gear. But they are STILL present -- it is just a matter of degree. Also, the fact that boys try to "repeat the experience" is not an argument that works in your favor. That behavior is often a trauma response. A person tries to repeat the traumatic experience voluntarily so that they have control over the experience which they didn't have the first time around.No, that is NOT "often a trauma response". That explanation was invented as an excuse by the psych industry folks to try to explain away the fact that that behavior is so common. And, I see, you have come to believe that excuse. I have no idea what you do. Are you an electrical engineer? (DON'T answer that question! That is personal information.) Well, then I could talk to you a little on the subject, but if you stated something that seemed strange or impossible to me, I wouldn't argue with you, or tell you that you are wrong. I'd ask you for explanations, because you have spent years studying the topic in great depth, and then working in the field, while I have read several Wikipedia articles, an occasional website for specific information (and sometimes I've been given very bad information, which has cause me big problems!) about certain things relating to electronics, etc. Now, if I decided that, for some reason, I wanted to become competent in the field of electrical engineering, then I'd have to read the textbooks, test my self, try a large number of experiments, read the history of electricity, etc. and only THEN would I be able to really discuss the topic with a real electrical engineer. And maybe even debate him on the topic. But until then, any opinions or ideas I have are not going to be very correct or valid. Because I wouldn't know what I was talking about. Well, I have read tens of thousands of books, many dealing with sex -- adult and pre-adult -- and I have read hundreds of studies dealing with the question of (so-called ) "child sexual abuse". Not to mention, "hands-on" experiences of various kinds with hundreds/thousands of boys during my lifetime. (NOTE: I am NOT stating that my experiences were illegal sexual experiences -- that would be a violation of the rules, and anyway, laws have changed in various places at various times. I have had many experiences. That is all I will say.) Do you see what I am getting at? I am going to re-post a list of books relevant to the question of child sexuality, BoyLove, BoyLovers, etc. Watch for it! M. |