Re: Question about For a Lost Soldier

'Could it be the case that Jeroen ended up being very satisfied by the experience? Maybe, but we see no evidence of that in the movie.' Good question. I don't know. Of course, it is best when partners both experience joy and satisfaction. My point I wanted to make is that it is not always synchronous at the same time. Indeed, this film does not give a definite answer about how it is processed by the boy. Actually, you don't find out at all how his character is put together in this one. Perhaps the book will bring more to the fore about that. Xdsaz knows that maybe? In the interviews that Theo Sandfort had with boys from Amsterdam about their sexual experiences (The Experience of Twenty-Five Boys (1982)), I got the impression that this differed from boy to boy. Sometimes it seemed to be about the adventure, not so much the sexual act itself. What also struck me was that the caution of the adult played an important role in how a boy experienced it. Perhaps that was lacking too much in the movie?