a preference is not a 'crusade'

People should not be forced to self identify as suffering from your alienating fetishistic version of what a bl is in order to have their voices considered here on BC which was explicitly set up to be a crossroads for all manner of different identities and ways of defining what boylove means. But anyway, your observation about how every well meaning conversation tends to get twisted into an off topic argument were sadly spot on. Perhaps it is due to the participants here being so traumatized by being led into conflict with each other by divisive haters over the years that they have become a reflexive embodiment of their own trauma. That certainly seems to be the case with you, poor thing.