Re: No kid should ever have to consent to sex...

I think there's a lot in this. I am by no means against contractual sexual relationships, i.e. sex work, but the weird thing about the contemporary emphasis on 'consent' is that it models all relationships on capitalist contract. In particular, the question 'did she consent?' seems to imply that sex is something that a man does to a woman, rather than something they do together; whereas the truth, as you point out, is that pleasure and affection, unlike the distribution of resources, are not a zero-sum game. Sex is only a zero-sum game in the case of actual rape. Mutually enjoyable sex does not always occur when both parties give prior consent. I would say that there is nothing morally objectionable (and there should be nothing legally prohibited) about a man engaging in any form of touching or sexual activity with a boy (or a boy engaging in sexual activity with a younger boy). Maybe the boy's eyes will be opened to something wonderful. If the boy objects, or it is otherwise obvious that he finds the activity disagreeable, then the matter is different, and the man ought to desist. But there is nothing morally blameworthy about someone like Lasse Nielsen caressing a boy's neck or midriff in the hope of interesting the boy to go further. In an ideal world, this is the sort of way that all boys would be introduced to sex. So I agree, no kid should ever have to consent to sex.