Re: 'how to deal with..'

What is "pretty innocent", but you feel bad about? I assume, given the context of this board, that this is something related to sexuality. Your morals, our values, your norms, not only about sexuality, are determined to a large extend by the society in which you grow up. If this is negative towards sexuality, like western culture today, you might for example feel a conflict with sexual pleasures that you think of or have experienced as positive. This can be very deep rooted in your mind, and most people are not aware of such. I do not say that this is the reason for your troubles or feelings, but I think this is unfortunately very common in western society. And I also do not know if this is the best way to help, but I would recommend 3 things: 1. Read (authentic) stories of other boylovers. Try to learn from their experience. 2. Look into yourself, without shame, what are your thoughts, what would be if you would take action, would this be good or bad for other people? The answer to this is not necessary a clear yes or no, it might depend a lot on the circumstances. Also, try to see the things as they really are. We are easily deceived not only by others, but to a large extend by ourselves and the picture we want to have from us. 3. Experience - but in a safe way. Talking to younger people is not bad. If you have opportunities to engage in activities with younger people, go forward and enjoy, but stay honest. Do not confuse horny or nifty stories with reality. You will quickly find that they are interested in a lot more, and sexuality is just a (small?) part of life. When you pursue only sexual interests, you will most probably end up not only disappointed, but sooner or later there would also be quite some probability for serious troubles. -- A life without boys is possible, but meaningless