To me a boy is a child with xy chromosomes. Do I think masculinity needs to be appreciated and celebrated again? Yes. But does that I require every boy to be the same? No. I just don't want boys and men to be socially punished if they are masculine. I don't want them to be accused of "toxic masculinity" for doing normal masculine and boyish thing. But it's also vice versa. I'll see "feminine" boys or boys who just aren't hyper masculine on Instagram minding their own business and doing nothing wrong on Instagram and the masculine boys and even adult MEN are bullying the F*CK outta them in their comment sections. It's so disheartening.it makes me get extremely heated.The amount of abuse I see from men and boys let me down so much because some child didn't meet their requirements on how a male should be. To me, if toxic masculinity is even a thing, that's it right there. The idea of biblical heaven scared me because of things like that, because it lead me to think that no one can be themselves. That whoever makes it in will be wiped clean of their sin and old ways and be who God wanted them to be, the way he programed humans to be in the 1st place. That being all men are masculine and all women are feminine. There is no in between. No spectrum no individual thoughts or personality, only what God intended what he wanted you to be.. and that sounds so scary, boring and miserable. That would mean if I go, my love and appreciation for boys would be fix by erasure, and I'll be set straight. The value I have for boys is so much higher than women, but it's against gods blueprint, so I gotta fit in. For me, my interest are from "metrosexual" to feminine boys. I'm not into real masculine boys. I don't like buzzcuts, little muscles and football 😅 but I know there are bl out there who love them. I like the pretty ones with the long hair, slender and smooth limbs who play soccer. The ones who do ballet with lovely thigh calves and a pert behind or are very artistic and they act, like in theater or plays. And who don't display hyper masculine traits or characteristics.so I see everything as a balance. |