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"What we really need is to engage with real boys, giving them the attention, care and love they deserve. Eventually, boylove will naturally prevail, as its benefits will become obvious to all. But this change can't happen as long as we are busy escaping reality and finding excuses not to develop BL relationships." It is beyond question that many relationships our kind have had with boys (the vast majority of which have not been sexual) have been beneficial to boys. But it is by no means self-evident that most of us have the effect you describe. I hope we do but there is much evidence to the contrary. Even during better times the average nonsexual boylover had perhaps five to twenty boys at maximum as close and special young friends throughout his entire life. Yet serial molesting boylover (and this is not just a media stereotype I can assure you as I have known quite a few and they are all dead or in prison now) who has forty or hundred boys or even more throughout his life leaving a trail of destruction in his wake that he may never even become completely aware of. The least of which being more boys with potentially negative views of boylovers. The numbers game you cite is not in our favour even though most boylovers are both good to boys and nonsexual with them. Also in my experience it is those boylovers who think their sexual seduction of young boys had no negative consequences who are the most deluded. Usually in midlife as they mature or see what has happened to their young friends they may rethink this position but by then it is too late.