I'm sorry I missed the point you were making. I've also had boys I was really into really love being with me and talk about me in that way to other people, including their moms. It's great - it feels so good. I'm not sure how different this is from the way people generally can focus very intensely on each other when they feel abiding interest. It's just that boys do it in their boyish way, and that works out exactly right for us boylovers, since a boy at his most emotionally intense will excite the most attention and nurture from us. For other people, I assume their obsessiveness is expressed in ways that function similarly to heighten their partners' attention (and without getting their mothers involved, I suppose). My bigger point is that it's normal, we're really very like everyone else, while differing in ways that are important to us without those ways being evidence of some kind of odd or pathological behavior or attitude unique to MAPs. We're cool. |