Don't identify or admit to being a pedophile. There's just too much to lose, and too much negativity. The boys in my country anyway associate it with forcible child rape and would want nothing to do with someone who claimed to be one. What you might consider -- at least what a BL friend of mine successfully did -- is identify as openly gay, even if you have no interest in men. They'll assume you're sexually attracted to them (they're guys, after all, and you're into guys), but they also know from the intense social conditioning at least in Western culture, that gays don't rape boys, are harmless and fun, some people are just like that, and it's normal. My BL friend was completely open about it to both the boys and their mothers (and this was 20 years ago). I used to visit him sometimes. They would tease him about it, flash their dicks at him ("You want this? Can't have it lol") but in the end just didn't care that he was "gay." He was fun to be around, always cheerful and energetic, and boys swarmed around him just for that. The good thing about his YF relationships was the sexual interest was directly implied and in the open, but with no negativity associated with it. His boys would simply say "I'm not gay" and weren't bothered by it, because they knew gays didn't pressure straight guys for sex (unlike pedophiles). My friend did tell me his boys knew if they ever want a blowjob, they knew where to get one, and from a safe person they trust. He and I chose different paths on that, I think, but that's a decision we all have to make. For myself, I always presented as straight and had great (non-sexual) YF relationships that included lots of cuddling and mutual nudity at times, but that may have only been possible because they "knew" there was nothing sexual behind it. Looking back, there was that uncomfortable element of deception I had to keep hidden. If I had to relive my young adulthood again, I may have considered my friend's path as an option. Icarus |