If you want to, be supportive of the person he is now, in the situation he's in now. He can't travel back in time and be pleasing to you in the way he used to. You aren't responsible for his getting into jail, and you don't need to disapprove or approve of whatever he did to end up there. Jail is punishment enough. But prisoners need continued outside support; it makes a difference in how well they handle the stresses of incarceration, which are considerable. Write. Phone as much as you can afford to (the charges are an exorbitant ripoff). Visit if you're allowed. Be consistent. You aren't obliged to do anything, but you can make a difference. |