What about the kids who have been screwed up by being /denied/ an intergenerational relationship? How many teen suicides came after being rejected by a "law abiding" adult whose hands were tied? This idea of "it might cause harm and is therefore never worth it" is too overly simplistic, and doesn't speak to the realities that ANY choice can potentially cause harm. Every circumstance is different. As for you, "Just a looker", I know that by 'experimenting' you meant 'indulging a boy's curiosity'; that is the vernacular of modern society (at least modern American society) when two boys have sex. "Messing around", "exploring", "experimenting". People say those things to avoid at all costs any possibility of the word 'gay' factoring into it. I DO think that we boylovers need to hold ourselves to a higher standard. The potential for harm, as Red Rodent points out, IS definitely there, so sex is not something we should ever engage in for simple curiosity or indulgence reasons. Anything less than an expression of true love is, indeed, not worth the risk. You don't have to *suppress* the feeling to realize that, though. Plenty of straight guys have sexual feelings for women that they know could never pan out, right? Feel what you feel, but then remind yourself that it's just not realistic to pursue those feelings. |