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It is confusing. It is hard to know to act. Like Peanut said, once you get someone turned on it's hard to navigate the situation in a way that is true to yourself without hurting the other person's feelings (or at least disappointing them). Sometimes it's easier to be friends with straight men, because they mostly assume everyone to be straight. Likewise sometimes it's easier to tell a lady friend that I'm gay, but then she's likely to introduce you to handsome men, and men can be annoyingly persistent and horny once you turn them on. There was a guy in my hometown who identified as "asexual." It is a real orientation where people aren't sexually attracted to men or women. They still can have dear friends, but they don't desire sex with them. Asexual people may still have sex to fit in (or for fun, or to have kids) but they don't feel that strong lusty feeling towards adults like we feel towards kids. I had plenty of sex with women and men as a youngster. It wasn't what I really wanted, but it wasn't horrible. It feels good. Someone on here once described sex with women as being like sex with a sheep. It's not your dream partner, but it feels good to jizz in something other than your hand sometimes. When you are young and horny it comes (cums) easier, but if you are like me sex with adults gets less interesting over time. Especially if you get an adult SO. The first few times you hook up it's exciting just to be doing it, but once the excitement wears off you look over at the big wooly beast laying beside you and it is just hard to get turned on by that. I hear that more women are asexual than men. It's fairly common for a woman to get married, have a couple kids and then pretty much quit having sex. It can be frustrating for her partner, but it happens a lot, so people find a way to deal with it. Maybe have an open relationship where the other person is free to have sex with other people. Eventually I started explaining to my close friends that I'm a BL. That has allowed me to make close friends of both sexes that don't require me to "perform." It works for me, but with one girl it did hurt my feelings when our friendship drifted apart. She didn't judge me for being BL, but rather she realized she was barking up the wrong tree sexualitywise and took her dick hunting to greener pastures. |