No child wants to have sex with adults. Empathy with the arising emotions in the child like fear of punishment, rejection, guilt, disgust, pain, helplessness can and must have to be learned first. It is wishful thinking when a pedophilic man starts believing that there are children or juveniles who think his physical contact is appropriate. Of course, this is a typical statement [of adults attracted to children, the author]: The children wanted it, they were comforted." KMB: Yes, this is as stated before a result of such a cognitive distortion - one wishes that they liked it, and therefore one adjusts one's perception. ---- disclaimer: i am not a native speaker,... Wahrnehmungsverzerrung = always cognitive distortion. KMB last sentence is a german construct. The first "weil" introduces an explanation, while the second "weil" is bad german (Berlin) and backwards (an Stelle von "deshalb"). The last sentence from Beier makes his thinking error obvious. Wishful thinking is not enough to cause a cognitive distortion. A cognitive distortion makes the affected unaware of the distortion. Punishing a person can create a cognitive distortion in order to avoid stress. Wishes don't do that. Wishful thinking happens in the Cortex, while the cognitive perception is established in the Amygdala. It is simple not possible to consciously create a cognitive distortion. I can show you a rectangle and ask you to point to corners. If i hit you every time you start pointing to a corner, you will get corner-blind and tell me that this is a circle. Viel Spaß |