Another point

Ellen, Thanks for your post. I would like to add one more thing. There is another problem that we face from society and that is carelessness from them. I now understand the statement that is used often in the gay community: they don't play on our team. It is as simple as that. I say that from my experience with my mother. I used the tactic that we should fight for our acceptance from people who would "call us monsters" to win over my parents, this didn't affect her. She is strong and did not get worried from a fight with me. What eventually somehow "defeated" me while dealing with my mom is that she decided to ignore me. I felt very abandoned since I didn't think that my mom would do that but I interpreted it as that she didn't care so much anymore as I am not on her "heterosexual" team anymore. As you said we should band together as we are on the same team. The people, like my wonderful mom, will not be able to ignore us anymore, and people who want to call us monsters will become a minority after the majority will simply see as as simply playing on the other team and not a threat.