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Here's a hit I haven't finished reading, perhaps something there that will shed some light on what you are looking for. http://www.drbochner.com/articles_for_individuals/the_power_and_control_addiction I remember in group a few people that had power and control issues stemming from lack of power and control while growing up. A domineering, perfectionist parent or something making them feel powerless. I wish I had paid more attention so I could give you better advise but I had my own issues to deal with I guess and this is the best I can do. All the best!