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So you really want an answer? Why didn't I answer when I read it?... it's a complicated subject, maybe I was tired. One answer is that your defiant boylover has for years now had BoyChat available to find many like voices and feel part of a community. We get lots of mail at VP. Girlfriends saying they found their boyfriend is a pedo, and what should they do? High school students writing term papers. People urging us to accept Jesus. Occasionally an older pedo -- maybe from boychat -- chastising us for being anti-contact. And then we get lots of mail from young guys, mostly frightened and really depressed and glad to have found us (alas, they can't join if they're under 18). I don't think we've ever gotten a message from someone saying they are underage and how they wish we were more inclusive in accepting defiant boylovers. Now, Heisenberg being what it is, maybe now we'll get a bunch. But we haven't so far. "Meaningful relationships with legal-age partners" and "pedophile OCD"... Those are only two options we suggest people consider, and they both depend on someone looking inside and seeing what they find there. With pedophile OCD, they're out the door and on a path to a happier life. Many who have legal-age partners stay. But we welcome the others with open arms. They are the core of our membership, and they're not treated like they have failed in some way. Surely it would be nice if there were a path to sexual fulfillment for everyone, but there isn't. Certainly not in today's world. And it depends critically on there being appropriate partners. The pro-legalization folks disagree with us at VP about that, of course. A person's stand on legalization should not start wtih the self-esteem or mental health of pedophiles, it should be a judgment about the best interest of children (and minors). That's the dog, and the tail is whatever effect that judgment has on a pedo's self-esteem or mental health. I see no necessary relationship -- I consider myself unlucky, not morally wanting. We will not build a movement by excluding some of us. I don't think we'll built a movement at all, now or in the foreseeable future. But my judgment of the political climate is that in fact our chances are better if those of us with anti-legalization views choose that as part of what defines us. |