I certainly can agree that gay boys often desire men, even if the question is academic for me. But yes - most straight boys don't desire men. If anything, someone like myself who prefers girls - with their narrow hips and flat chests - rather than women, ought - by "logical" processes - to be somewhat attracted to men, or at least boys ... but, nope! not at all. And I can recall a conversation or two in high school with my peers who were quite disturbed at the idea that a man might take a sexual interest in them. So - neither extreme position - the idea that all men are secretly gay, or the idea that no boy could ever desire a man - is correct. Actually, it seems pretty common sense to me - that gay boys (boys attracted to men rather than women) would be attracted to men, or that straight boys (boys attracted to women rather than men) would not be attracted to men. Sure, these is room for people in between, those who are bisexual to a greater or lesser degree - and room for those who are asexual or pansexual - but it seems to me that the extreme positions are a matter of wishful thinking rather than even the most superficial examination of the evidence. I mean, how difficult should it be to imagine that other people might have preferences different from one's own? How arrogant does one have to be to discard everything another person says about themself? Baldur (visiting from GirlChat) |