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experiences of minor-attracted females

Posted by hikari on 2017-January-16 17:08:35, Monday

Hi BC, I know I usually don't write big chunks of texts like this, but since I can't post to my wordpress anymore I think I will post this here. Please let me know your thoughts on the matter.

As a female MAP, I know that this is one area in society where females actually seem to have an advantage, as we are less likely to be suspected. We can often openly show affection for children and no one suspects a thing -- unfortunately, this disguise can be too good; it can even fool other MAPs.
I can speak from experience as being a seemingly "uncommon" female in the MAP community (though I do not believe females are as "special" or "uncommon" as many think). It doesn't help that in most studies, female MAPs are greatly outnumbered(Brian Cash's study, while fascinating, was comprised of 95% male MAPs and ~%5 female MAPs). It seems unfortunately common that in MAP community, females tend to be treated with less credibility than their male counterparts. I have seen people's comments on forums, saying things like they "are actually men lying for attention", they are "confused", or they are an anti spy or an infiltrator.

It is true that I sometimes feel like an invader, but not out of malice. As far as I know, history of boylove has been primarily about men and boys, while my knowledge of women boy love is scattered far between and few. Certainly, most people would associate boylove primarily with men loving boys. I like to paint my nails in shades of dark and light blue. Sometimes I wonder if I can even use the BLogo. I wonder if was made to include someone like me. I am of course also familiar with the concept of "female-only" and "male-only" spaces in real life. I often feel like I am infiltrating a space that was created for males. In fact it reminds me of one time that I accidentally walked into a "male-only" part of a sex shop. I felt very ashamed and rude for having not noticed the sign. Only with boylove, there is no physical sign, but there seems at times to be an invisible one. Or perhaps there is no sign, but I get "weird looks". I notice when people treat me differently once they find out I am a female, and even with those who are accepting of it, there very often seems to be a very subtle undertone of tentativeness in their interactions. That is why I often prefer not to tell people up front, even though then I can sometimes feel like I'm being dishonest.

I know as a female, my experiences are often different than that of a male boylover. I don't want to trivialize their experiences by saying "Look, I'm just like you!". Clearly, I don't experience homophobia firsthand the way that they do. Yet I am not a perfect example of that "1 man, 1 woman" heteronormative-ness either. We are both "boylovers", and we have to deal with hiding that in a world where such feelings are persecuted. While I cannot provide the same kind of advice that another male boylover could when it comes to certain problems, I also think we are more similar than we think. I want to be able to provide friendship and support, and I want to be treated with credibility and respect, not misgivings, just as any other MAP would when he said he was male.
hikari

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