Re: What is a boylover to you?

At the end of the day it's all semantics. Can a man be classed as a "boy lover" if his interest in the boy begins and ends with a sexual one? Many BLers disagree and tend to prefer the label "paedosexual" or "hebesexual" to denote a purely sexual interest. Frankly I don't personally care either way how each type is labeled, but I know to others an "exact" description is of most importance to them. Unbenownst to many overbearing MAPs, many boys (and girls) don't even LIKE their adult lovers molly coddling all over them and trying to play the role as their parents. They find this annoying and overweening and feel that the only ones whos role that is is their parents, NOT their lover. I don't think it matters how deep and involved a relationship goes though. Either types are ok, whether it be a fully involved mentoring type (often referred to as "Greek Love"), or a purely sexual one. The "paedosexual" has nowhere as deep an interest in a boy as the mentoring type "boy lover", but that still doesn't make his status any less legitimate. The most important factor is the issue of MUTUAL CONSENT, no matter what form and arrangement the relationship is. Btw, I mentioned "Greek Love" but note well that a lot of Greeks were not all supporters of this philosophy though. Hell, they didn't even believe in mutual consent! The demi-god Hercules and the God Zeus for example used to seize and ravish boys and girls without any concern. The Vandals, Goths and other barbaric hordes from the north were infamous for rading the Mediterranean lands to seize femme boys and abduct them on horseback. So yes, many people in the past didn't often care too much for mutual consent, let alone "Greek Love".