In the Observer worldview, loving relationships appear to be incidental to exploring sex. "Do boys have an intrinsic right to explore and experiment with their sexuality..?" I know all boys do some sexual exploration, and I was among them, but as a long time member of the gay community, I have had a bellyful of 'just sex' and I place a much higher value something that has love built into it. You can explore and explore until the cows come home, but if you don't have love, you start to get into a cycle of pure physicality that a disillusioned gay writer once described as 'the spin-dryer - cling free.' Love matters to most people, and when they divorce it from sex and dedicate the latter to pure exploration, they deprive themselves, and eventually they realize it. In my view, pedosexual men having sex with purely exploratory boys is not an auspicious formula for building love. I have no idea why anyone would think hetero boys would really want to have exploratory sex with much older guys. At best, from the boy's viewpoint, it seems to come under the heading of 'why the hell did I ever have the idea of doing that?' It could easily be just as regrettable as exploring a nearby donkey. Where there is love, there is no lawsuit, no matter how much money may be involved. |