I say "we" because this is a shared experience for BLs. The BLs who have never had trouble getting many YFs (especially after the BL is older than around 20) are those either sitting, or destined to be sitting, in prison - at least as far as those in the western world are concerned. Certainly everyone here can relate to you. Sadly there is not much advice that can be provided here :( Your post though - well written and thoughtful - illustrates the life of a BL. A boy is not guaranteed to appear in your life. I know BLs who haven't had a boy in their lives in a decades; a few boy moments maybe but not a YF. That's life for us. The emotional frustration as well as the sexual frustration is a big deal. The worst thing is that if you were to have a YF you would be lamenting the lack of the sort of relationship you truly want. There would be something making it less than perfect: no sex, over-protective parents, his not returning call, or something else. There will always be SOMETHING which makes it less than perfect. Everything in life is a package: we take the good along with the bad. The faster you accept it, and I mean truly accept it, the happier you will be. Not having a YF eliminates the problems that YF brings: money to be spent, sometimes annoying behavior, dealing with ingratiating yourself with a family that may be fucked up, or a myriad of other problems. I know what you are thinking "I would RATHER have those problems than no YF" but the point I am trying to illustrate is that there is a downside to everything and that, while a boy is important to have in your life, you may eventually find that the troubles it creates aren't as worth it as it first seems. Good luck. Something will come along. Good or bad something will come along in your life; boy or not. Wishing you the very best, Fame |