Many people leave because they find support elsewhere--be it in the form of a new job that brings them into contact with boys, a YF who never lets them leave his side, a BL friendship established in real life, or parents and family who have accepted them after opening up. As for your strategy for hiding, I sort of feel I already tried that--from the age of puberty to adult. Most of us BEGAN living WITHOUT boys, and we found that the effects of extreme deprivation did more to HURT our cover than help it (by triggering signs of depression, loneliness, etc.) Either that, or we just decided that the world is going to draw the conclusion ANYWAY, seeing as we are 30, 40, or 50+ years old and have never discussed nor entertained a relationship with the opposite sex. So, if your asceticism works for you, then great--but I'd rather be happy than feel a little more safe. |